According to faith, sometimes when I listen to a lecture, read a book, or talk with someone, I notice how often the term "test" is used. Of course, there are moments when we fail, and we hear that the Almighty is testing us. But why would Allah test us if He doesn't give us more than we can bear? In this context, the term "test" might be taken too literally.
A test can have a positive or negative outcome, often judged on a scale—how badly you failed or how well you passed. But is that truly the purpose of our Creator? He who created us knows our exact capacity. So, is it really just a "test"? I don't think so.
Difficulties in life are universal, part of every human experience. Yet we often frame them as failures when we struggle to handle them. In this, we might learn something from a quote often attributed to John Wooden: life isn't just about failing or passing a test. Instead, it's an opportunity to pause, reflect, and figure out how to overcome the difficulty.
Think of it like a game or match. The result—whether you win or lose—is set at 50%. You might face extra time, disqualifications, or even a tie, but the question remains simple: did you win or not? Similarly, when you're "tested"—whether by losing a job, a loved one, or your health—you already know, to some extent, that the outcome could go either way.
The challenge is in how you face it. Do you feel crushed, burned out, and defeated, or do you emerge stronger and more content because you've overcome it? Maybe it's not a "test" at all—something that you can fail or pass. Perhaps it's a lesson. One without winners or losers. A hint to pause when you're struggling or feeling overwhelmed. To realize that these challenges are simply a part of life.
The great philosopher Epictetus once said, *"If you want to win, only engage in battles you are sure you can win."* Even Napoleon Bonaparte—known for his iron will and many victories—admitted, *"Some battles simply cannot be won. But they must still be fought."*
So perhaps the true lesson isn't in whether you win or lose, but in how much of yourself you retain in the process. Isn't that, after all, more important than victory in a losing battle? How will you go on after the struggle? Will you be drained, broken, and burned out? Or will you emerge unscathed because you chose not to fight a futile battle?
In the end, it all comes down to character. As I often say, you cannot control your reputation—people will think what they want about you—but you can control your character. And you should strive to nurture it as best as you can.
I'll conclude this reflection with that famous poem—and the link to that inspiring interview.
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Sometimes I think the Fates must
Grin as we denounce and insist
The only reason we can’t win
Is the Fates themselves that miss
Yet there lives on an ancient claim
We win or lose within ourselves
The shining trophies on our shelves
Can never win tomorrow’s game
You and I know deeper down
There’s always a chance to win the crown
But when we fail to give our best
We simply haven’t met the test
Of giving all, and saving none
Until the game is really won
Of showing what is meant by grit
Of fighting on when others quit
Of playing through, not letting up
It’s bearing down that wins the cup
Of taking it and taking more
Until we gain the winning score
Of dreaming there’s a goal ahead
Of hoping when our dreams are dead
Of praying when our hopes have fled
Yet losing, not afraid to fall
If bravely, we have given all
For who can ask more of a man
Than giving all within his span
Giving all, it seems to me
Is not so far from victory
And so the Fates are seldom wrong
No matter how they twist and wind
It is you and I who make our fates
We open up or close the gates
On the road ahead or the road behind.
Sometimes I think the Fates must
Grin as we denounce and insist
The only reason we can’t win
Is the Fates themselves that miss
Yet there lives on an ancient claim
We win or lose within ourselves
The shining trophies on our shelves
Can never win tomorrow’s game
You and I know deeper down
There’s always a chance to win the crown
But when we fail to give our best
We simply haven’t met the test
Of giving all, and saving none
Until the game is really won
Of showing what is meant by grit
Of fighting on when others quit
Of playing through, not letting up
It’s bearing down that wins the cup
Of taking it and taking more
Until we gain the winning score
Of dreaming there’s a goal ahead
Of hoping when our dreams are dead
Of praying when our hopes have fled
Yet losing, not afraid to fall
If bravely, we have given all
For who can ask more of a man
Than giving all within his span
Giving all, it seems to me
Is not so far from victory
And so the Fates are seldom wrong
No matter how they twist and wind
It is you and I who make our fates
We open up or close the gates
On the road ahead or the road behind.
Link to intervieuw : https://youtu.be/0MM-psvqiG8?si=oQnOLxxT-UaUOWUj